"people" keep sending me questions about things that are offensive to POC. don’t send me questions about locs/dreads, don’t send me questions about the n-word, don’t send me questions about anything that someone else told you not to do because it offends them. don’t do it. what you are doing is implying that i am "safe" and that this other person’s feelings are not valid. i’m not a safe person, and by safe i mean i will not pander to your feelings if you are going out of your way to hurt people that look like me.
here’s a fun little scenario: you’ve been invited to a dinner party, but one of the hosts is extremely allergic to shellfish. you think to yourself, “but i love lobster! they couldn’t really be that allergic.” and you bring lobster bisque to their home. people are eating it, saying it’s great, and you feel good about yourself because someone likes your soup… and the allergic host starts to not feel well. they begin to itch and weeze. soon an ambulance is called because their throat is closing. in your selfishness, you have made this person’s home unsafe for them.
this is what it feels like when you ask another black person if it’s okay to have locs after another black person told you it is offensive. you have completely disregarded the offended party’s feelings and humanity. you have told them, “well, if everyone else likes my soup, you’ll just have to suffer.” you have made their “home” inhabitable. when you have a serious allergic reaction, the after effects might not go away for awhile, and it’s the same with the offenses of cultural appropriation. the people you have offended have to walk around triggered for the rest of their day/week/month/life because you didn’t care about the one person in the room who was opposed.
i will always support offended POC when it comes to cultural appropriation, don’t fix your mind to think otherwise. i am not here to comfort you or give you the green light. don’t try me. i am not the one, two, three, or four.